Your Life Purpose | What is your mission? | Effortless English with AJ Hoge

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welcome to the effortless English show with the world's number one English

teacher AJ Hogue where AJ's more than 40 million students worldwide finally learn

English once and for all without the boring textbooks classrooms and grammar drills

here's AJ with a quick piece to help you learn to speak fluent English effortlessly

your mission your life purpose what is it what is your life purpose do you know

and what is the difference between a purpose and a mission we'll talk about

both very similar ideas why is it important to have a life purpose or a life mission

why because you know a lot of people maybe you I know myself in the past we feel lost like we're

doing things we're going we're trying to achieve goals maybe you're trying to make more money

get a better job or a better career learn to speak English fluently I don't lose weight and get

stronger get a black belt in Jiu Jitsu whatever right we've got all these goals right all these uh

uh very specific goals in life and sometimes we get those goals we achieve them but then

we actually don't feel much happier maybe we're a little excited we're happy for a short time and

then that feeling of excitement or happiness goes away and then we're like well now what do I do

you know like I'll give you an example of this for myself is that uh you know I I when I was a

runner I was doing a lot of running I did a few marathons and uh it was always fun to train for

a marathon because of course when I was training for a marathon it's not just the one day of the

marathon Race but more like six months before the race of training it gave me a lot of motivation

a clear goal to focus on in the first time I just wanted to finish I just wanted to survive

it and uh and then later I would try to get some specific time you know like under four hours under

three hours 45 minutes right something like that and it worked very well for that which was very

motivating was very um easy to uh train every day because I knew that the the big race was

coming and I needed to get ready but what's the problem the problem is that then the race ended

so I'd run the race and I achieved my goal I you know I beat my time from before and everything's

great wonderful now what and then what happens is you can lose motivation right then ah your

goal is finished you achieved it or you didn't but then then you're like well now what do I do

right so the power of goals is they are very specific very specific in fact when you read books

about goal setting they always talk about this to make a good goal it needs to be specific and needs

to be measurable this is another thing that people tell you right you'll read about it all the time

that your goal should be measurable so not only very specific but you need to know exactly did

you achieve the goal or not so if you say I want to run faster it's kind of specific

but it's not specific enough like what's the measurement right what's the measurement so

it's much better that you say uh I want to run a marathon in less than three hours 45 minutes

right then that's a very specific goal because faster can mean anything faster for a professional

Runner that's slow three hours 45 minutes is not fast at all for a professional runner in fact

that's super slow okay but for me that was fast so that's the point right it really depends on you

so that's why with goals they're very very specific but this is also their weakness

right because they're specific and measurable and also they have a deadline they have a

specific time they end right if you say I want to run a marathon in under four hours someday

that's not a goal that's not a goal because when are you gonna do it now you know this

year 10 years from now 30 years from now right it's it's not really a goal because it's it's

there's no deadline there's no date there's no time and therefore you can just kind of forget

about it it's easy to forget about it right you won't you won't be motivated you won't

really take strong action because the goal is not uh specific and there's no time deadline

so all of these are very good things goals are good things they're helped to us to achieve

specific results they're good for motivating us for a time period sometime that might be you know

one month and it might be you know two years depends on the goal but the problem with the

goal is that it's too specific and it ends and this is why you also need a mission or

a purpose I would say in your life generally and also for your career maybe for your family

it's best if you can make one mission or purpose I'm just going to use those two words as kind of

very similar okay a mission or a purpose that you can use for your personal life and your

working life so if it fits everything that is a powerful purpose or a powerful mission

and what is what is a purpose or a mission exactly well it it answers the question why

why this is the key thing about a mission it tells you why you were doing something

a goal doesn't really tell you why you say I will run a marathon in under four hours

that's very specific and I'm going to do it this year before the end of the year okay nice goal

very specific you can measure it specific time great it's a good goal but it's a terrible mission

why because it doesn't tell you why why are you running a marathon

what's the point what's the purpose of running the marathon for you

and this is where we get in trouble and a lot of people for example don't think

about this too deeply this is especially true in work and with topics about money

where people will make a goal I want to be a millionaire I want to be a billionaire I want

to make a million dollars in one year they have all these nice goals I want to get a

better job and they have a general idea well because it'll be fun to have a lot of money

I'll have less stress you know there's some benefits to the goal right

but that's not what I'm talking about a mission is deeper it's bigger the why of a mission is

like what's the deepest reason for making more money for you and I believe that a purpose

really needs to have the idea of devotion and contribution at the center at the core

that's what a mission is I'm just going to use the word Mission okay so a mission

is about serving helping loving others that's the difference right a goal is really for you

right or can be I'll run a marathon less than four hours just because I want to okay am I

helping anybody no is that serving anybody else not really unless we think about it more deeply

so what we would need is we need a big mission a big mission that inspires us because this is the

thing just doing things for yourself is nice but it doesn't really inspire you it will not energize

you it will not motivate you at the highest level I think this is a spiritual law a dharmic law

that somehow love and serving and contributing and helping others somehow super energizes us far more

than trying to just benefit only for us right it energized as it super motivates us and gives us

super strength superpower if you're a parent you understand this you will do things for your child

that you won't do for yourself you will suffer for your child in a way you won't

suffer for yourself you'll work harder for your child than you will for yourself

right you will experience pain and worry and make huge efforts for your children

and go through a huge amount of stress and difficulty for your child or your children than

for yourself I know this is true for myself uh you know before my children uh I was much lazier

and uh I've I I yeah I thought and I was weaker I was weaker I was weaker I thought like I oh I

can't handle getting up early in the really early in the morning I hated it and I can't

handle getting a small amount of sleep and I can't I thought all these things right I would so they

were excuses but then my children came and then we had some stressful you know some health very

serious health problems with one of my children and we had hospital stays and and I had like

four years of terrible sleep and I would go days with almost no sleep especially in the beginning

and I survived and I did it because I would never have done that for myself just for myself

to achieve some goal just for me I never would have done any of that it was too difficult but

for my child I did it and I became stronger and you will too so this is a general spiritual idea

that serving others and of course the highest level would be Devotion to God obviously

but um in this world where you know in this life we're in now it also means just I think in a more

uh it's a little easier sometimes to understand serving other people right it's part of it

and so what you want to do is find a mission in your life where you contribute to others and then

you want to make a it's called a mission statement businesses have destroyed this

idea unfortunately because a lot of businesses will have a mission statement big companies and

they're they're meaningless they don't follow them they're just a bunch of marketing but

um that's not what we want we want a real mission statement a mission statement is why are you alive

why do you do everything you do in your life and you want it to be big and inspiring to

you number one big and inspiring to you number two it's about serving contributing to others

it's not just about yourself number three is that it needs to be actually fairly General this is

the opposite of a goal right a goal you want very specific as I just said but for remission

it needs to be General y because you will use it in all parts of your life you think of the

mission is the big General why your your deepest highest motivation for everything you do in life

it has to be General because it has to connect to everything in your life your personal life

your working life everything and then under that mission you have lots of little goals

and goals become really powerful when you connect them to a higher Vision a higher purpose let me

give you a quick example so maybe you decide your mission is uh to to serve to love to help

people or maybe be more specific your family your children okay maybe your mother or father and

being a parent is is your highest level mission in life right so you decide that okay serving my

children helping my children loving my children is my highest mission that's my mission in life

great and then you also have a goal you want to run a marathon what if you connect the two

instead of just saying I want to run a marathon for four hours under four hours why why so that I

will have more energy I'll have more Fitness I'll have more endurance in order to serve my children

then I'll have more energy for my kids I'll wake up and I'll have more energy

all day long I'll have more energy so I'll play with them or I'll focus on them more

I'll listen to them more I'll be more creative with them I'll be a better mom or dad because

I have more energy because I have better Fitness because I'm training for a marathon

you see you connect the very specific goal train for a marathon but you connect it to that highest

mission and ideally in life it's not always possible maybe but I think you do it as much

as you can is that you connect all your goals in life all parts of your life to that mission so

that's why it needs to be a little more General because you're going to connect everything to it

third point about your mission you want to write it down put it on the wall somewhere

it needs to be you know like three four sentences I think is enough it doesn't

you don't want it to be super long then it gets you can't remember it

and you know it needs to be long enough to cover your life okay

the other thing about a mission you should write it and it should be based on action

verbs like I like to start it with the word to to do something so I'm going to

give you an example because it's my own mission okay I'm gonna give you my own

Mission this is the mission of effortless English it's also my own personal mission okay and uh if

you're a Star Trek fan you'll notice the pattern because I was inspired by the Rhythm it's not the

it's not what it's not doesn't come exactly from Star Trek but I was inspired from the Rhythm I was

watching a lot of Star Trek old TV shows when I made this and uh so I like the rhythm of it

okay so the effortless English mission my own mission is to explore new opportunities for growth

to bring confidence happiness and vitality to people all over the world to boldly go

where we where I have never gone before that last part is stolen from Star Trek okay so

let me review it again do you remember you notice it starts with two so it's

about doing something a mission is about what you do and why you do it in life it's about

what is the purpose of your actions in life you know this is fairly General right to

explore new opportunities for growth that's the first part of my mission so what is that

talking about so saying that when anything I do in life I want to focus on growing and learning

what does that mean it means becoming a better person that's what growth is Right

becoming a better person a more loving person aim or confident person a more virtuous person

right a more dharmic person you can use different ones right but you understand

it's this idea of growth growing right and in this idea is also the idea of constantly

learning learning learning learning lifelong learning always trying to learn to grow wiser

and better to become a better person that's what growth is for me so to explore so Explorer gives

this idea that uh I'm will I'm open I have an open mind I want to try new things I want to

that growing requires trying new things not just being comfortable all the time right explore new

opportunities for growth so I'm always looking for new chances to grow to become a better person

okay so that one's really a lot of that's about me that first sentence but the next sentence is all

about contribution it's about what can I do for other people right to bring confidence vitality

and happiness to people all over the world so to do some to contribute to other people which people

people everywhere in the world right effortless English is international so makes sense

so to bring so exactly how am I contributing this is where you need to be a little bit specific a

little bit specific okay so you don't want to be too General if you just say I want to help people

that's not specific enough okay that's a little bit too vague I want to help people you want to

how you know there's many ways to help people the key part of this is you want to tie this you want

to connect this part to your own personality and your strengths like how can you help people

like for example like I could have said I want to help people be calm and meditate

and have them have a more a more peaceful mind that's a nice way to contribute to

people why is that not my mission because my mind's not so calm so it's not my strength

I mean it's actually a weak point of mine is that I I I have a busy mind okay and so

I know it's a benefit but it's not really a way I can help a lot of people I mean I would

need a huge effort it just doesn't fit my own strengths my own personality so you know I go

to other people for advice about that and for help about that like a child for example so

um you want to tie your mission to your passions to your strengths to your own life experience to

your own personality so that you're you have a way you can help people you have a way you can

contribute to people it's different than me it's different than anybody else so this is the part of

your purpose your mission where you have to really think about it and think about like you know what

what is different about me how can I help I said some people are really peaceful and calm and

they can help other people do that that's wonderful I'm more of a high energy person

and I always have been so you know I'm more about bringing confidence Vitality

Vitality means energy it means physical energy emotional energy mental energy Life Energy

right that's why it's at the center it's that middle one because uh I

because I'm that way naturally I can help other people quite easily to get more energized to have

more Vitality more Life Energy more emotional energy more mental energy more motivation

more inspiration this connects to me because that's it connects to my strong points

right and to bring confidence confidence is another one why is that one important because

uh that one fits my life experience because I did when I was younger I was not confident

the opposite right when I was a teenager through my 20s uh even in the beginning in the beginning

of my 30s I was not confident at all I lacked confidence and it was a cause of a lot of pain

in my life a lot of problems a lot of failures a lot of difficulties and then I learned how to

become more confident how to be a confident speaker how to be confident in relationships

how to be confident and lots and lots of areas of my life and it changed my life in a big big way

made me a much happier person I achieved a lot more success a success meaning getting results

I wanted in my career jobs in relationships and everything traveling living the life I wanted

when I gained confidence I finally could had the strength and the motivation and the power to live

the life I wanted that I dreamed about right my I got to choose my own life and not just suffer in a

life that I didn't want so that's why confidence is important to me because this changed my life

and I now I can help other people get more confident so I understand people who are not

confident I understand how painful it is maybe it's just you can't speak English confidently

and I know that's painful maybe it's more General in your life you can't you're not confident in

general and you're not living the kind of life you want so I can help you this is part of my

mission I can help people in general because I did it I did it and uh and I'm passionate about that

becoming more confident helping people become more confident it's part of my own life story

so again it connects to me very personally and then happiness I like I don't want it to just

to be focused on um I don't want to just focus on material success right because and this is

just this connects to me also just because I'm uh you know very spiritual I'm a uh I'm a devotee I

and I know that happiness the deep that happiness is is a spiritual quality not Material okay so

just focusing on confidence and energy that's awesome but it it doesn't reach the low the

highest level right or the the you could say the center the lowest level the more Foundation

right because people there are a lot of coaches out there that do focus on that and you know it's

all about money and building your own business and you know tons of freedom and flying on private

airplanes and uh that's okay I guess but it's not me okay that's not me I don't care about any of

that stuff so um I I do want some you know I do I did want and I have Financial Freedom but why

so I can serve my family so that I can live the life I want right so you see all of these parts

of my mission connect to me as a person and how I can help and it's going to be different for you

because you're different so you have to look at your personality you look at your life experiences

like what what things have you overcome in your life maybe you can help other people do that too

what are your strong points you know things about your personality

that are that people always notice right and then what are your values

and then finally the last part of my mission the effortless English mission to boldly go

where I have never gone before where we have never gone before but for effortless English it's we

this is about how how or how am I going to do this this is about attitude

right how am I going to contribute to people how am I going to grow and learn boldly and this one

I got from Star Trek just because I liked it but I like that word boldly boldly go to boldly go

right so I'm not going to do it in a weak way I'm not going to do it in a scared way I'm not

going to do it in a careful way I'm not going to do it in a calm low energy way I'm going to

do it boldly with power with energy I'm gonna just take chances I'm gonna get out of my comfort zone

as much as I can I'm gonna push myself to do this to boldly go where I have never gone before

right again the idea of new experiences I am willing to try things keep my mind open and

keep learning and keep trying new things I'm 55 years old I'm going to keep trying

new things new experiences pushing myself okay when I'm 65 as long as I live as long as I can

still move and talk and think I'm gonna do it okay so that's what we're talking about so how

this gives you a nice structure you can play with for your own mission right so one is kind

of your own personal thing something like for me about growing and learning

the middle part is about contributing how will you how do you want to help other people

and which people people around the world just focusing on your family or your children

you know and then finally the third section of the third part how how do you want to do this

you want to do this spiritually you want to do this uh calmly you want to do this

rationally you want to do this passionately you want to do this boldly how right what's

kind of the general attitude you want to have in your life as you pursue this Mission and purpose

having some struggles with my microphone I'm going to move and adjust things a little guys

microphone keeps falling down here we go all right how's that is that better

all right there we go so that's it that's how you make your your mission now what I recommend is

write it down and you're gonna need some time like right just think just brainstorm right just think

of ideas and write them down write them down write them down for these three sections you can use a

different Rhythm than I did right you can use four or five sentences however you want to do it but

get these things down so you know kind of your personal Focus how you will contribute to people

and the Gen your general attitude that you want to have about life and write down your strengths

and how you can help people and all these things and then uh you know write it and then next day

rewrite it write it again the next day write it again until you get it exactly how you want it

and then you write it nicely and put it on your wall in your room on your you know next to your

computer or wherever in your office at your job or you can see it maybe write a small version

put it in your wallet or your purse and look at it and say it I used to chant this I when I was

doing uh I was on a I actually made this one when I was doing a pilgrimage a Buddhist pilgrimage and

Japan called the Chicago 88s and it's walk it's a one month a little more than a month

walking around the island of shikoku up and down mountains visiting temples

and since I was walking all day every day sometimes in my mind I would just chant

this to myself my mission is to explore new opportunities for growth to bring confidence

vitality and happiness to people all over the world to boldly go where I've never gone before

and I would say it again and I would chant it with energy like that now it's right in my mind

and sometimes if we were in the mountains and no one was around and my wife didn't get too annoyed

I would say it even out loud a little bit not yelling it but just like still say it out loud

that's why I haven't memorized okay so I recommend you memorize it memorize it say it with energy

this can become part of your morning routine saying your mission every day every day every day

and then final step now you have it you've memorized it now in life try to connect everything

you do to that mission your exercise goals connect them to the mission this is what I do

like why am I exercising so I have more energy why do I Want More Energy well to contribute to

my mission if I'm tired all the time it's hard to pursue opportunities for growth

it's hard to bring confidence Vitality happiness to people if I'm tired all the time

right it's hard to be bold when I'm tired

so I exercise so that I have energy what an energy for what to contribute right and of course I tie

this also to my family same thing I want to do this for my children bring them confidence

vitality and happiness and the number one thing I want for my children is for them to have you know

a happy life happy life that has meaning and purpose right this this connects to my mission

and so this is uh this affects a lot of my parenting decisions because you know

like for me a lot of parents focus on the academic stuff and job stuff so much I know

it has some importance okay but they they're obsessed with it so many parents do this and

they they don't focus on their child's long-term happiness they don't us they focus on their

their child's Spiritual Development or they don't focus on helping their child find a meaning and

purpose in their life all they care about is oh my kid has to get a good job and get good grades

and go to college and and get a good degree and then get a good job that's in a good career you

know and and it's just like all their effort and focus is on this and they kind of actually

you know lose a lot of their love and connection and and

relationship with their child because they're so crazy about school and in the future jobs

and money and work you know and so for me since I have this Mission I'm very clear and so that

stuff to me is not very important like I I I'm not really too focused on my kids you know learning to

read before everybody else learns to read or you know getting the highest score on their on some

math test or I don't really care about that stuff you know I know they need for life they

need General skills they'll you know by the time they are adults yes they'll need to build read

well because that's why because reading is such a useful tool for growth for growing and learning

you can still grow and learn without reading but reading helps because there's so many great books

out there right it's gonna speed up so of course I want my kids to be able to read they need to

survive so I know they need to have some kind of way of working and eating okay but uh beyond that

I'm much more focused that they have a purpose in their life a feeling of purpose and meaning

so that whatever work they do they're happy in that work fulfilled you know you get the idea

so even as a parent I connect my parenting uh actions behaviors goals um to my mission

so this is the power of a mission you can connect everything exercise diet uh your

personal life your family life your role as a father or mother and of course your work life

so this mission is also the exact same Mission as effortless English except I changed the last

you know the last sentence I change it from I to we but uh otherwise it's the same exact

mission for this is why I'm teaching English and this is why I teach English the way I do

right this is why I don't do a lot of lessons on the past perfect tense you can find a thousand

people doing that on YouTube already first of all second of all it's not effective and third

of all it does not fit my mission how does that help you become confident more confident

have more energy and more happiness in your life it doesn't so that's my mission with effortless

English that's why my all my lessons is focus on personal development topics and growth and

becoming a stronger better person and becoming more confident and a much better communicator

not only English but in general yeah I teach you English I teach you to be fluent in English

but much much more than that why because of my mission because I've connected effortless

English to my mission so this is why I'm kind of a different teacher I'm very different and

how and my lessons are very different in how I do it my style everything's different because uh my

mission is very different my mission is not to help the world master English grammar okay it's

not if someone else's mission is that that's fine okay it's just but it's not my mission so

your mission will shape your goals it will change your goals so it's important

it will also guide you and this is the power of making a mission and also you can change

it later okay it doesn't need to be perfect some people get paralyzed uh well what do I say oh they

get all crazy about it so it's not necessary do your best right now and you know two years from

now you can change it you know somebody maybe someone's 18 years old they're not I don't know

my purpose yet well just do your best and write something have something because it gives you a

guide It's like a compass right it gives you a a direction to go in your life so many young people

and older people too are lost they're lost they don't have and they're doing all these things in

life you know trying to get a better job to make money and working and try to get a girlfriend or

boyfriend and but they don't really have a guy they don't really have a deep strong powerful

understanding of why they're doing those things this Mission gives you the why it

will guide you it gives you guidance and also this Mission then helps you when you have tough times

you will have tough times but now your tough times also have a purpose right those tough times

are serving your mission also they can serve your mission

helping you grow stronger wiser right like for me the you know to seek out new opportunities

for growth growth can be painful growth can be difficult growth often does require

difficulties tough times so when I'm in a tough time yeah so maybe I'm not happy about it or you

know I'm not excited about it I'm not enjoying it but uh but I can still at a deeper level connect

it to my mission and realize okay this is tough but uh but I am growing I'm learning I'm growing

right for example as I said like the all the time with one of my children in the hospital and I'm

not sleeping and I'm sleeping basically on the floor in the hospital on a cot and uh getting no

sleep and so worried and so you know first of all is making me a stronger and better person

second of all I was there for my child right serving my child contributing to my child so

I realize when am I suffering who cares about my suffering my child's suffering more

so it'll it'll it'll really help you to have some kind of purpose in life you start to feel

the feeling of you know you have a meaning right and of course you can connect this to an ultimate

purpose I mean My ultimate purpose is you know Devotion to God and Dharma

but uh uh the mission and so that's why I use different words Mission and purpose so that's

purpose I mean I think that's we all share basically the same purpose in my opinion

which is what sanatana Dharma teaches and that is you know we're here to deepen our devotion

to God to transcend our ego all these things right but sometimes in life you know as we go around our

normal life and we're having to make money and buy food and deal with our kids you know we're doing

normal householder things uh we needed something a little more kind of in this world right and that's

where the mission the mission connects these kind of everyday little things to that highest

highest highest spiritual purpose that mission's kind of right there in the middle The Guiding us

guiding is guiding us keeping us true to our highest values so make a mission write it down

remember it memorize it say it every day connect all your goals in life to that bigger mission

let's get into our questions and comments now

so live on YouTube I've changed around my camera a little today this is why I'm

uh kind of moving around the microphone is moving and anyway

drink a little nice coffee too okay here we go

let's go back into our comments and questions first of all nice to see

our wonderful fans everyone's English who are here so many times in the live show uh I saw

akka I saw uzman off Dil Morata always is here a lot Fernando Amina and agrigoreva you know

I just recognize so many of your names now it's great okay I'm gonna back up here Fernando Diaz

all right let me just jump back okay here we go

oh there's someone saying hello from Syria hi I just want to say uh you know love from

Syria it's the first time on watching you live thank you Simone says Santana

says hi from Brazil hello to Brazil AKO good to see you AKO from Tokyo as always

Yeah Anna now Anna always has great comments and it says it's extremely difficult and extremely

important at the same time to find your mission some people are always in a rat race and they

can't find their life purpose through all of life it's terrible yes this is a great a great idiom in

English maybe in other languages you have it too rat race right rats he says I did little Rats from

running around just racing around without purpose right they're just chasing food but they have no

spiritual purpose no higher purpose right and this is what we call the rat race the rat race

when we talk about it in English it's just that it's that same thing of just you know get up go

to work come home watch TV go to bed get up go to work you know come home watch TV go to bed

this kind of routine of just you know just making money and surviving but with no feeling of purpose

or deeper known deeper meaning that's the rat race and it is depressing it is because you know there

are people who make a lot of money but they're in the rat race they have very big nice houses

but there's something missing inside there's an emptiness inside

right because they don't have that mission

so it is so important that's why you know you've got to do this you've got to do this

Chris Fontaine says God has a purpose for me yes he does

yes he does and uh you know this is this is how you start finding it figuring it out right

and and like I said it you know it doesn't have to be perfect you can change it later

as your life changes your life experience changes you can modify it and change it

but you know get something now and focus on it and then you can adjust it if you need to

yeah Kevin's got a nice thing my mission is to make myself worthy of this life

worth this so this life is worth it to find the value nice

Kevin also asked what brand is your microphone Road

the microphone's great it's this little um arm that holds it has been kind of falling

today I gotta tighten it up there we go there we go there we go okay here we go next question

jazooli says that's great teacher I remember the first time uh my English took off after

finding you that's great take off means to go up up like an airplane

okay

cutie says I would like to help people change to become a better person

it's a good that's good that's good I would say that you want to

be more specific though so this is kind of uh it's too General

we want to be General but not too General right so two general is like I want to help people become a

better person I want to help people become better people I want to help I want to or even more vague

I want to help people that's too vague how how you gotta connect it to to some kind of strength

or experience from your life right so I you know my my mission also is to help people become

better but how right so for me it's confidence vitality and happiness right that connects to my

strengths you know so confidence energy and happiness if you want to use a simpler word

so you become better how there are a lot of ways to become a better person so you connect it to

what you're good at or your knowledge and your experience and your personality to make it a

little more specific not too specific but a little more specific than just help people be better

yes Fernando they're very good questions Fernando Diaz says uh you made me think about this topic

can I have several missions depending on different contexts different periods in

my life yes I think that is uh totally fine like to have for example a job Mission career Mission

and a personal mission but I think it's most powerful when you can combine them all into

one and it's it is a little difficult it's a little tricky right to like depending on your

what your what your job is like if you have a technical job you're a computer programmer

but then you want to serve people with you know by helping them be more healthy and energetic it's

like how do you connect those uh but you might be able to connect them it might just you need

some time I think it's okay in the beginning when you first start is to have different missions you

can have a a job a career Mission you might have a mission you know as a father or a

mother right but uh I I think it's keep thinking about it and you know rewriting them and do your

best to create one that will fit everything like this helped me a lot because yes I used to have

different uh that you know the reason it took me time to write the one I have because you know if

at first I it was kind of separate you know like how people become confident English speakers

okay that's fine but that's a good mission for my business everyone's

English but it's not a very good business for my family they already speak English so

that's why I had to make it a little less specific a little more vague bring confidence vitality and

happiness to people all over the world well now that fits anybody so it still fits you know maybe

with effortless English I'm focused a little more on English speaking to help you be more confident

right but I'm still teaching you to be energetic you know you know those of you or VIP members or

have bought power English the power English course you know I teach you a lot of techniques

for becoming more energetic and uh you know having more motivation more emotional power

emotion mental energy right so but then I also do that in my own family so it's nice when you

can connect them all and you also ask about kind of uh different times in your life might this

change I think yes it can but uh you know again it's best if this Mission at least generally

will serve you for many many years like I don't know when I'm 90 can I still help people have

more energy Maybe not maybe I gotta take that one out of the mission at that point if I don't have

it myself I might be a tired old man I don't know or I'm gonna be dead then it won't matter

I mean certainly as I get older the highest spiritual uh uh purpose will be most important but

but again you know I still have people be more as long as I can talk and move and

function decently I think I can still help people with most of these things

so it's best when try to think long term for this too and that's why it's

it's kind of tricky not too vague not too specific it's kind of right in the middle

cameras reading through the comments guzmannoff says if our mission is based on material things

we will feel empty after achieving them yes that's right and that's why you have to have

this contribution part that it's uh that it's uh it's these are in there's an internal part

for yourself like I said my first one is you know explore opportunities for growth so for me that

just means growing trying to be a better person right learning learning it's really about learning

so uh but then the second part is to you know to help other people right

so it's not just about make a lot of money for myself have the perfect body

you know these things are uh okay if they are connected to a higher purpose a higher mission

by themselves they're kind of empty what you find is that you may achieve those things and you feel

excited for a short time and then there's an emptiness and we can see this if you don't need to

experience it yourself you can see this with a lot of famous people a lot of rich and famous people

so they have achieved these incredible material goals lots and lots of money lots and lots of Fame

and yet we know many of them are not happy people sometimes we know this because you you'll

you'll get a glimpse of them when they're not pretending right where they're not

not on a talk show right you get news about their life somehow

and you realize oh my God this person has a lot of problems right so uh and

sometimes they kill themselves or they die of drug overdoses and things and so

those all those great material things did not make them happy or give them meaning

so those material things are okay but they must serve something higher

or else they do they're just meaningless because you know those material things they're all

gonna go they're all impermanent you know not permanent they will all disappear uh many of

them will disappear as you age and get older and all of them will disappear once you're dead so uh

that's the fundamental reason those kind of goals and a material type of mission will always

be unsatisfying inherently I mean this is what Gautama Buddha taught right like they always say

that they always uh I always see the translation of the you know the four noble truths the first

truth is always translated in English is life is suffering I don't know Paulie but it always

seems like a little bit of a slightly off like not exactly right that translation and uh I feel like

it should be more like uh material life is like if they give a long uh version in English life is

suffering is a night like very short but I think I feel like that the the truth the real heart of

it what Buddha was teaching too is that uh you know material life is inherently unsatisfying

right so anything that is material that is based on this physical world of ours you know this this

material things goals activities you know we have ups and downs and Pleasure and Pain but there's

something at the at the heart of them that's unsatisfying and what is it well they're all going

to disappear because none of them can last all right there's nothing none of them can continue

I mean with a nice comment says uh purpose can guide our life decisions

influence behavior shape our goals and offer a sense of direction and create meaning yes yes

yes great summary nice points that's right it's kind of a high level Compass it gives everything

else a direction and a meaning and a purpose all your other activities all your other goals

right that's why it's so powerful

okay and sorry the comments are I'll try to go faster the comments are coming in fast okay

I mean uh with a follow-up says the mission of this life is to take care my mission in

life is to take care of family great Follow My Religion great have freedom and have happiness

great great and got the contribution part which is take care of family

I think religion is also fundamentally about contribution service devotion nice

oh Anna says you're wearing a business suit today why do you look more formal and usually in casual

shorts I know I'm trying I'm going back to doing it I used to dress like this for most of my videos

in effortless English and uh I went back and I was looking at old video a bunch of old YouTube videos

of mine the recent ones from the last few years and then older ones and I realize they look nicer

it looked nicer I kind of I became a slob uh dressing a little too casually I think for

you all and there's nothing wrong with it it's my normal way I dress every day but um I don't know

I think it just shows a little respect to you to dress a little nicer so that's why I'm doing it

yeah this is a nice point that usmanov says is um our ancestors mission was to create a good life

after them yeah very nice point unfortunately most people never think about life after them the only

object they focus on is money yeah this is a nice point that our ancestors so many of our ancestors

and you can find this in their writing for example they they weren't only thinking about themselves

they were thinking about their ancestors their children their grandchildren their great

grandchildren right the generations that would follow them so they they weren't like oh let's

just use everything and destroy everything for ourselves and have a big party during our life and

oh our children tough luck we we used everything we destroyed everything you've got nothing right

this is the attitude of our general cultural attitude now sadly but um that's it's a good point

Kevin says in my opinion your job is based on cognitive psychology and science certainly yeah

cognitive psychology I agree yes science kinda I don't know depending on what you mean by that word

yeah MDK says uh 555 says uh one of my missions is to be stronger and wiser at life challenges

very nice and at low moments yeah that's a nice thing that's a great thing to focus on

because you know life's gonna have challenges it always will and so including this sort of like uh

it's almost like a Navy SEAL kind of attitude of like embrace them right part of my mission

part of you could say something like you know part of my mission is to uh you know

to embrace difficulty and challenges as opportunities for growth as opportunities

you know to become stronger as opportunities to become wiser so that you actually

welcome tough things difficulties problems yeah that's really nice I like it

Yeah Anna giving a point kind of commenting on what I was saying about as a parent she

said I know one family where the parents wouldn't allow their child to become an artist although we

always wanted it he finally became a teacher as his parents wanted now is he he is an extremely

unhappy person right this is exactly right this is the point like it's like those guys

those parents had it backwards the point is for the child to have a happy meaningful life

and then some job might help with that some career certainly we need to eat and have a place to live

okay I understand you ought to make some money but um but they got it backwards they people

get it backwards and they think that oh the the money and the job are the important thing

and then they sacrifice the happiness that's insane it's crazy it's crazy for

yourself it's crazy for your children I don't want my kids to be billionaires and miserable

that would be a failure for me as a parent oh I taught them to be billionaires and they're really

unhappy and miserable that would suck I'd much rather than be uh like I said it's it's happiness

and part of that happiness is also meaning and purpose I want them to have a to have and to feel

deeply meaning and purpose in their lives and to be happy and they're going to have tough times I

know how they do that I don't know maybe they'll be an artist maybe they'll be a musician maybe

they'll be a business person maybe they'll be just a father or mother and stay at home I don't

know what they're gonna do okay and the truth is I can't prepare them because technology is changing

so fast I have no idea what kind of jobs are going to be good in you know 15 20 years I don't know

right so why prepare them for one specific job you must be a doctor and then or you must be a

dentist or you must be a teacher and then who knows that job might even be gone in 20 years

with a very nice Mission short succinct worship God and help people nice only thing I would say

is that be a little more slightly more specific about helping people how there are many ways to

help people how can you specifically help people in a great way what what are your strong points

like what how can you help people like I gave the example uh you might help people you know learn

meditation and to be calm and have a calm peaceful mind and clear their mind that would be a very

nice way to help people right but that's not my mission I can't do that it's a weak point of mine

right I mean I guess I could try to do it but it's not connected to my strong points I would

I would really have a hard time helping people do that because I can't do it myself very well okay

now someone who who has meditated their whole life and their their they they have this they're uh you

know a monk or a nun or a charya or or they just have spent you know years and years and years and

years and meditating and well then yeah then you could be really good at that right so there are

many ways to serve God there are many ways to help people and you have your own way you can do this

right so find way or ways that are you can especially do this in a good strong way

Saint says my mission is to be fluent in English and work in a national school now this one's a

little more specific I'd say these are goals these are good goals no no huh these are very

totally great fantastic goals but I say there's still they're too specific and there's a time

limit being fluent in English you'll do it okay so that's going to end you will achieve that work at

an international school okay and let's say maybe in two years you get a job so now both of those

things you achieve them well now what are you going to do with your life what's your mission

you achieve the goals what's next right that's why that's really these are goals so what's the bigger

reason why do you want to speak English fluently how are you going to help people by by speaking

English fluently I mean how are you going to help people working in an International School is it is

your motivation to help and serve your family give a better life for your family that's a mission

maybe it's more about your students and helping students have better lives that's also a mission

right so you gotta find the contribution in there how are you going to help others

with those things but those are good goals just grow them a little bigger to make it a mission

yeah get Tran trong says I have a personal notebook that I where I write ever my every

idea my principles my experiences my goals my mission in life and going deeper and deeper over

time this is such a great habit wonderful comment trunk right a notebook a journal

a diary where you're constantly writing about these things thinking about them ideally every

day and then you'll really well figure these things out very very clearly it's very powerful

Anna says I can definitely say to be fulfilled To Be So Satisfied to be satisfied you have

to find your life mission definitely otherwise you'll be an unhappy person

says God has a oops I just jumped yes AJ God has a purpose and I have found it this is what has

changed my life 100 I can say that I am happy when you find your purpose your meaning your mission

this is a deeper happiness that will help you through tough times

you know happiness is tricky because people confuse happiness with pleasure

pleasure is up temporary feeling good and it goes up and down it goes away and it comes back and uh

happiness is something deeper it's possible to be struggling and in pain but still happy

yeah this is nice um

says hi from New York City uh now I care about Karma

I hope it's not too late it's not too late bring love and light to this world there's

enough Blackness I'm not religious uh an atheist but karma makes sense karma is is a fundamental

spiritual law exactly and so basing your mission on Karma right is wonderful great idea

says thank you for your advice and energy you're an excellent person

greetings from Argentina Argentina from Miguel storms thank you Miguel

oh this is nice Surah part of these says I want to live life joyfully that's a great

comment right that's about that attitude of life right like mine mine is to go boldly this is a

great one I want to live life joyfully see that's going to affect everything he does

everything he does he's going to try to do it joyfully it's a love life

and at the end of the day matter in life this is see this is great

you're an amazing coach lots of love from India wonderful that's a great one I like it very nice

see this is cool Fernando Vallejo says my mission is to help people obtain their

retirement I am a lawyer awesome now what I would do to make it a mission

is then add a little bit of a more spiritual or emotional part which is why

okay obtain their entire retirement is great you're definitely helping people

but why like like like why and how what kind of retirement and why why is that important

how will that help people right I can think of a lot of reasons give them give them freedom

right to give to give them freedom to give them security you know there's lots of things that you

do so this is wonderful that's a great what you're doing and just just connect it at a little bit

more General higher you know emotional spiritual level and I think you got it perfect like this is

a great this is kind of a great job Mission and if you just make it a little more General I think

you will have it for a whole life mission that's it's very nice what you're doing though it's great

okay a couple more and I'm taking my kids out today as usual let's see

yeah Fernando Diaz with a nice comment says through the years I've had kind of

vague ideas about my mission in life but maybe I wanted to reach too much I needed to focus more

uh and I separated my purposes to handle the topic better it's totally fine there's

nothing wrong with it but uh just give it some time and think about it think about it and you

might be able to start connecting them connecting them and then merge them combine them into one

that don't feel any pressure to do it but just uh give it some thought

I'm saying nazari says hi Jay first I love you when it comes

to motivation and energy you're my energy trainer I believe I watched

and listened to your videos uh more than a hundred times thank you that's a lot

nice trunks as my mission is to create value for my community and to create a truly meaningful

happy family oh I love that one that's nice very nice see see how powerful these is when you know

it's right you know you've got a good Mission when you read it when you say it and you feel

this energy inside you like you feel inspired by it right just reading it you feel like yeah like

there's an emotional energy that pops up when you read it when you think about it if that doesn't

happen if there's no like inspiration you don't feel excited about it then keep working on it

it's not quite right okay so like I read that and like as a father create a truly meaningful

happy family like oh that's a great phrase that makes me excited okay that's a good one

have you come back to your Facebook or is it fake AJ is that husband off yes I'm back on my

Facebook they unbanned me or unsuspended me it was suspension I couldn't do anything on my account

now I can so it's facebook.com slash effortless English there are a bunch of fakes out there but

my official one that's actually me I'm posting some little short clips from this show on on

Facebook and it's also me on Twitter again since Elon Musk took over uh my account is unsuspended

so however long that lasts I'll use it

okay

um and he's just asking about my courses online

yes uh on the screen you see my website effortlessenglishclub.com

that's my website go there effortlessenglishclub.com and

you just join up for a class of course oh by the way if you do have a course already

our courses website crashed today let's see if it's up yet I don't know what's going on anyway

the tech people are working on it it might take a day or two as usual yeah still down

sorry don't know what's going on we'll figure it out as usual I used to panic

when these things happen now I'm just used to it it'll always get solved so we'll figure it out

yeah van says I was following your advice and your podcast speak English in six months you're right

if I achieve fluency other people can do it too you only need to follow your advice yes you know

I do this when you join my VIP program uh you'll get for 10 days the first 10 days right I'll send

you one email every day and each email has a link to a video not from me but from another VIP member

someone who has improved a lot so each of those videos is I'm not even in the video at all I'm not

talking to them they made them these these members made the videos themselves that was really nice of

them but they talk about how they did it and that you know in the beginning just like you they they

had problems speaking and they had difficulty and then they you know as VIP members in their case

they for your peer members and they you know achieved fluency most of them got better jobs

using their English lots of other nice benefits and they talk about that and that's the point

though and that's what I'll tell you in the emails when you get them is that they did it so you can

do it they're not like superhumans okay they're not like superhumans and different than you

they're regular people like me like you they did it and so you can do it too that's a good point

okay I got a couple more and we're almost done I'm catching up on the comments finally

loyalty Rd says AJ you are the best I found you four months ago you changed my life

thank you it's very nice

Hussein nazari says AJ first I love you my mission is to persuade people that they can

learn English by themselves and last part of mine too okay one of my tasks one of my jobs

is to persuade people they can do it by themselves right they can you can do it you're an independent

learner Independent Learning is the way to go in life not schools not I mean you know

it's funny because people talk about you know online classes and the cost in fact I have to

raise my prices soon guys everything's getting expensive I since 2006 I've had the same exact

prices on all my courses but I finally have to raise them so if you want the cheaper prices

Now's the Time get over to my website get a course join VIP because they're all going up

uh but anyway even when they go up people some people say oh it's expensive but it's not if you

go and call around look around at English schools in your town or in a city near you

uh even uh some of the classes online that are more like normal schools some of these places uh

will do even online classrooms and you know kind of the normal school methods of teaching English

man they're expensive okay I mean like you know 150 dollars per week per week all right I mean

400 500 bucks or more per month okay people are doing paying this

and the results are not even that good you know it's just textbooks and it's all the usual stuff

that you've already done for many years you know it's not that great because you've done it already

so you know you have to realize when you're looking at I don't know people somehow when

they look at uh independent courses they suddenly oh the prices they worry about the price because

oh my God it's 300 300 is cheap compared to going to a school in your town if you're going to go to

a school every day or even two three times a week if you're gonna go to a school in a classroom

much much more money and less effective I know it's nice it's maybe it seems kind of nice because

you're there and you can you know see the teacher and you're in a room and where people are used to

that they're used to schools because as a child as kids growing up we're used to going to classes and

sitting in a desk and sitting at a table so it feels normal so people pay a lot more money for

that but it's not very effective it's much less effective than learning independently with your

iPod or your phone and just listening to audio lessons or whatever and watching videos and things

like that it's much more effective more convenient you can just go outside go for a walk and listen

to you know my English lessons or anything else and so then if you look compare the prices like

that it's cheap you know even 300 even 500 is cheap because it's 500 for a whole year or for two

years right instead of 500 for one month and then the next month again five hundred dollars right or

400 or 200 so schools are expensive and then look at universities yikes right I'm talking about just

an English school a language school they're very expensive universities are thousands of dollars

thousands of dollars you're paying for crap garbage

how many people learn to speak fluently in English from a university course

I know very few people in fact I probably know nobody because most anybody who does

succeed it's because they're doing extra things at home learning independently

nobody learns to speak English from a high school English class nobody learns to speak

English fluently from a university class they don't because it's not effective yet they're

spending thousands and thousands of dollars for these classes thousands of dollars and wasting it

so it's much better to spend you know even a decent amount on some kind of online learning

Independent Learning not just English okay so I'm not just selling my own course here I'm talking

about any topic any topic right like uh I'll give you a personal example business so I'm you know

I'm always studying business and marketing and web design so which is better for me I could go to a

university even an online university and then get a degree you know and study you know uh marketing

I could get a master's in business in marketing or I could uh you know join some software or you

know website development University course and spend thousands and thousands of dollars and

years and years usually and at the end no useful skills or almost zero useful skills

huge amounts of time and energy and money wasted no way that's not what I do I do not

have a degree in business and I never will right I read books I just find books on Amazon eBooks

I take Internet courses I sign up for internet courses some of them are you might think although

it's expensive I just joined a marketing course and I had to pay almost 700 dollars

600 something dollars so you say oh man that sounds expensive not compared to a university

a university is thousands of dollars and this online course I joined for seven hundred dollars

is really good it's really effective it's very practical it's like how do you do it now right

very useful very practical excellent so 700 is cheap compared to some business

you know course or university that I would spend thousands of dollars going to a classroom

sitting taking notes and at the end have very little I could actually use in my real business

so Independent Learning is the way guys 100 percent you'll get better results faster and

cheaper so anything you want to learn in life do it independently don't go to a classroom

all right

Ibraham Ali good another he's speaking of VIPs and super fans Abraham good to see you as always

I'm going to end with his comment because he's awesome

he says I spent a huge amount of money on English courses I was studying in a

Language Institute it was a nine month course but unfortunately it was a waste of time and money

yeah I know right so many people have this story I remember like in uh

uh well actually here in Japan but cert and also in Thailand they have these big schools should I

name names I'm going to name names why not there's like Wall Street English and berlitz and you know

you go to the classes and man they're expensive so expensive and I know people Thai people Japanese

people who have been going to these schools for years and years and years they spending

huge amounts of money and time at these schools and their speaking is terrible you know not to be

mean but it's just true the results are terrible much better to do it independently much better

I'll give you the final example I'll give you my own failure I just give my University degree

my uh my first University degree I was stupid and got more um my bachelor's degree is in journalism

and I never even used it and I learned I mean I can't even think like in four years what did I

learn in four years at College at University I had fun I mean socially it was great it was awesome

so that's nice but it was an expensive way to have fun it was an expensive party um

I mean like actual useful skills like you would think journalism for example

journalism well I must have learned to be a good writer in a journalism

program surely they taught me how to be a good writer nope they did not

they taught me I mean I wrote academic papers and yeah I guess I learned some really basic ideas

about writing a news story but I could learn those ideas from an e-book on Amazon for ten dollars

instead I was spending not just thousands tens of thousands of dollars to get that degree

and what kind of useful skills did I get you know like journalism skills nothing I learned

I focused on a lot on video journalism like television so you would think oh you maybe

you learned how to be a great editor of videos and how to create amazing videos

I did not crap I learned crap about that I was garbage at making videos at the end of my

four years of study I learned more about making videos again what from playing on my computer

playing with YouTube and a few ebooks way better I've learned more than four years of Journalism

and focused on video and and Broadcasting so it's terrible what a waste good Lord so you

know I know so many of us are like this we have this experience maybe for you it's in English

but uh this is how you need to judge these you know independent courses and online learning

okay and again I'm not just trying to sell mine I'm talking about anything you want to learn

like some of you maybe want to learn business and there's a lot of business courses online

you know in marketing and making a website and selling whatever it is there's lots of training

do that even if you spend a thousand dollars on for an online course it's

cheap compared to going to a university or a school and also yeah you know not always

but usually it will be better training it will be more useful more practical

faster so yes learn independently all right guys I got kids in the other room and they're all saying

I want to go outside take us outside and play with us so time for me to go all right lots

of love to you so to summarize your mission your mission in life is so important it will

give you purpose that will give you meaning it will inspire you and energize you for everything

else you do in life your family life your career everything all your goals connect to your mission

so take time watch this video again write your mission down work on it until you have it then

memorize it say it every day connect all your life goals to your mission you will be happier you'll

be more motivated you'll have a better life go to effortlessenglishclub.com that's where you can get

my courses power English VIP everything else lots of love to you see you next time [Music] thank you